On Writing And Growing And Being Vulnerable

Writing is a bit like being seen in your underwear.

And not even the pretty pair that makes your rear look good.

Writing is embarrassing. It’s vulnerable, oftentimes painfully so.

Can I let you in on a secret? I have trouble taking my own advice: act braver than you feel.

I rarely feel proud and, even when I do, it’s for a fleeting moment. That’s exactly why I can’t put my hope and joy in this writing thing.

Even so, I love writing.

I can’t not put words down.

If I go too long without writing, my heart feels hallow. My soul feels lifeless. My inspiration well runs dry.

I love writing, but I’m a baby in this community of words. I’m very much aware that I’m in theapprentice stage of my craft.

And can I tell you something else? I don’t want to be. I get angsty. I feel stuck. I get discouraged at the measly headway I’ve made.

But I have to believe that we grow in the waiting. That waiting is full of hard questions, yes, but progress, too. What I write today is my best work today, but it is not the best work of my life. And yet, to develop into a better writer I must let others read my not-best-yet work, get feedback, take criticism, celebrate joys, learn, be patient, write more. And that’s vulnerable. And vulnerability hurts.

But vulnerability is brave, too.

So be brave with your craft. Show up. Do your work.

And know that the best is yet to come.

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  1. Bonnie Stoltzfoos on November 16, 2014 at 2:37 am

    So crazy good. Love this post, Victoria. I’ll be coming back to this one.

    • writer on November 16, 2014 at 2:41 am

      Thank you so much Bonnie 🙂 Glad it was helpful!

  2. Heather Dent on November 16, 2014 at 4:41 pm

    Victoria, you and I are totally in the same boat here. We are compelled to write and share what we write even though it’s scary. As someone who truly enjoys reading your work I just want you to know that your vulnerability is part of what makes your writing so appealing. You are awesome.

    • writer on November 19, 2014 at 10:23 pm

      How did I just see this post!? Heather, that is so kind of you. It’s refreshing to know being vulnerable is appreciated! Let’s all keep writing!

  3. Jill on November 18, 2014 at 11:09 am

    Soooooooooo true!! I have trouble taking my own advice too. We are certainly putting ourselves out there, but it helps to have honest community that can encourage us along the way. Great post!

    • writer on November 19, 2014 at 10:23 pm

      Jill, I often feel that I write posts for my own memory’s sake! So I can go back and remind myself of what I need to hear. Thanks for reading1

  4. J. Rae on November 20, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    I’ve been thinking about this lately!! Writing is exposing. Yet we’re so drawn to it. I struggle with this. Well put, twin 🙂

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