Have Yourself a Guilty Little Christmas

grumpy-santa-pic-rex-802532535Don’t count me off as Ebeneezer Scrooge’s little sister! Hear me out. Tonight I began my Christmas shopping (T-6 Days, I know) and was struck with an overwhelming sense of guilt. What happened to good tidings of great joy? Read on.

It is more blessed to give than to receive, I don’t deny that. What I learned tonight is that giving for the wrong reasons is a horrible excuse to fulfill the old adage.

Have you ever felt guilty for not giving someone a gift? I think at Christmastime, those feelings become even more acute. The dreaded moment when an unsuspecting someone approaches you with a, “Guess who’s got a present under the tree!?” (Maybe your buddies aren’t that corny – I hope they aren’t – but you get the idea.) You are in a tight spot my friend.

If you were me about 6 hours ago, you would have slide into the car like Bo Duke and put the lead out to make it to some Stuff-Mart. I did the ritualistic scouting of the gift aisles and thought the usual last-second shopper thoughts. “O, they might like that (insert item he really wouldn’t like).” “If only that had (insert seriously ugly item) in a different color, she would really like it. I guess this one will work.” And the last stitch-effort “You know what, I’ll just get them a gift card.”

Yep. Classic guilt.

I made my purchases quickly and hit the road. It wasn’t ten minutes later I decided to return all those purchases.


I decided that a gift given out of guilt is no gift at all.

In 2013 I’m going to do gift-giving a little differently. You may not get a present from me this December 25th, or even next, but I promise you that I’m committing to loving people – to loving you – better all year long. If I see something in June that reminds me of you, I’ll get it. If I think about you in March, I’ll send a note in the mail. If you’re having a bad day in October, I’ll take you out for a cup of coffee. I don’t see the point in letting the pressures of the season dictate generosity, but I do see great value in allowing Jesus to continue to work on my heart so I can give as fully and love others as freely as He did.

Merry Christmas!


  1. Margaret on December 20, 2012 at 12:01 am

    I love, love, love this post! (My) Ben and I don’t exchange gifts with each other (or our family) for exactly this reason. You put it so well!

    • Victoria on December 20, 2012 at 3:31 am

      Thanks Margaret 🙂 Ben and I don’t give Christmas gifts to each other either LOL Must be a guy-named-Ben idea!

  2. Bek on December 20, 2012 at 3:02 am

    I like this, Victoria!!! Thank you for not giving into the pressures of the season 🙂 love you!

    • Victoria on December 20, 2012 at 3:30 am

      Thank you Rebekah 🙂 (Though, of course, I did very much appreciate YOUR Christmas gift!)

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