No, this post isn’t what you think.
I wouldn’t dare tell you how to squeeze your toothpaste. To each her own.
Personally, I’m more of a go-right-for-the-middle girl. Now, my husband? A die hard squeeze-toothpaste-from-the-bottom kind of guy.
Yes, toothpaste extraction has been a topic of discussion in our home.
While I consent you may get more dollar for dollar by meticulously working out ever last drop of Aquafresh from the tube, in words familiar to us all:
In the grand scheme of life, we both agree how you prefer to dollop wintermint g00dness on your toothbrush isn’t that important. But, in the daily grind of our lives, it was important to my husband. Believe me when I say he isn’t an especially picky person – but, for whatever reason, the fact that he prefers we squeeze toothpaste from the bottom was worth mentioning.
So I changed this tiny part of my hygenic routine. Why? Because it was a practical way to love and serve him. In an unconditional love sort of way, not a repressed housewife way – you understand.
We are incredibly new to this whole marriage ‘thing’. We only tied the knot 5 months ago. One piece of advice that has been invaluable to us both came from my grandmother (the one with a bit of Yankee moxy). She said,
“People say you’re supposed to give 50/50 in a marriage. That isn’t so. You give 100% and don’t keep score.”
You see, I could have put up a big fight over the toothpaste tube. I could have. I could have asserted my independence and told him I wasn’t budging. I could have told my husband to by his own dang tube of toothpaste. But where’s the love in that? Where’s the honor? Where’s the giving 100% and not keeping score? So, at least in this little mundane detail, I’ve discovered how you can give and not worry about it. I just squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom.
It hasn’t killed me, but I can tell you it has made our marriage a bit sweeter. I’d much rather have a sweeter marriage than a partially squeezed toothpaste tube any day.
Do you have any weird idiosyncrasies? (I can’t stand people touching my feet!) Have you found it difficult or easy to love your spouse in the little things? I’d love to hear from you!