Today, I am a single woman. To be honest, my “relationship status” hasn’t changed drastically over the past twenty years. Actually, it hasn’t changed at all. I’m at that stage in life when everyone around me seems to be dating, engaged, or married. Some days, I feel dreadfully left-out of the fun. “So, how’s your love life?” well meaning relatives ask with a twinkle in their eye. “Hey, are you dating anyone?” my peers inquire. I hate to disappoint them.
Popular culture has blindly taught us that our lives are static until we start dating. Don’t believe me? Just take a look at romantic comedies which center on a protagonist pushing his or her way through a hum-drum life, magically stumbling into a worthy existence once he or she falls in love. Turn on the radio and I challenge you to listen to a set of songs that don’t include something about love gained or love lost. I may come across as a bit harsh here, that’s not my intention. (Believe me; I love a good romantic comedy!)
I greatly desire to marry the right man someday. I’m excited at the thought of making a home, loving my husband, and caring for my family. God’s perfect plan has me single at the moment. It goes without saying that my response should be contentment. Many times in the New Testament, Paul speaks of singleness as a gift (Check out 1 Corinthians 7:25-31). But, beyond advocating the validity of singles everywhere, I want to take the idea of “love life” up a notch.
Shouldn’t our entire lives be about love?
Christ has showered us with the greatest love of all; a love that brought Him to death on a cross, a love that resurrected Him from the grave, a love that places His Spirit in our hearts. In Luke 10:27, Jesus exhorts His followers to, “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbors as yourself.” (ESV)
The next time you get that dreaded question, use it as a moment to thank God for His love, and maybe an opportunity to share Christ’s amazing grace with the world.