“I hope you have a boy.”

“I hope you have a boy.”

When Ben and I announced our third pregnancy, we were met with the usual host of congratulatory responses. And one particular sentiment I’ve heard over…and over…and over again, “I hope you have a boy.”  Family, friends, random strangers...
Bearing the (Shame of the) Mental Load

Bearing the (Shame of the) Mental Load

This idea that mothers bear the ‘mental load’ of the home has been floating around the Interwebs lately. (See here.) Basically, the thought is that even if the father in a household contributes a fair share of house maintenance, the mother is the one with...
A 27th Birthday Poem

A 27th Birthday Poem

belly born. science slicing windows into nature’s womb, a kind of miracle.   hours clocked – long days, longer nights. by design i cannot, for the life of me, remember the work it took to raise me.   only when i look at my daughter, tucked into...